My first day as an intern at Family to Family Adoptions was a crazy one. I did not know what to expect, and I definitely did not expect what happened.
That first day I was told a recent story about a group of four siblings that had recently been placed with adoptive families through our agency. My field instructor told me that it was one of the most difficult and emotional cases she had ever had. Four sibling ages 8 months to 9 years old had been given to the agency by their birth parents who signed away their parental rights and left them in the care of Family to Family Adoptions. They told me that the four boys had been so severely neglected that they had to be placed in separate foster homes because no one would have been able to adequately take care of all of them at the same time. Hearing their story and some of the things that they had been through broke my heart.
That evening when I went home I sobbed and told my parents that I did not know if I would be able to handle this job. It was the first time since I was ten years old that I had ever questioned that adoptions was what I wanted to do.
About a week later I went with Jennifer, my agency field instructor, to do a post placement evaluation for the oldest of the four boys. What I saw completely blew me away. Not only was he doing very well physically, emotionally, and mentally; but he was one of the happiest kids I have ever seen! Being able to meet this amazing boy and to see how happy he was with his adoptive family helped me to realize that adoptions were definitely what I wanted to do.
This past week I was able to attend the adoption finalization of two of the four boys. It was one of the happiest moments I have had in my internship experience thus far. Although each of the four boys were adopted into separate families, they are all happy and adjusting quickly. All of the families keep in touch and bring the boys together regularly.
Adoptions is something that changes so many lives. The birth families, the adoptive families, and of course the adoptive child are all affected. Hearing the heart breaking story of these four boys and seeing them now has been an experience I will never forget. They have gone from neglected and developmentally delayed to flourishing and undeniably loved, cherished, and cared for. Some people ask me how I can handle working in adoptions because it is “so sad,” but in my opinion adoptions are not sad. They are miracles that give children a healthy and loving family, that give birth parents a way in which they can give their children the best life they possibly can, and that bless adoptive families with a child that they had only ever dreamed of.
-Raquel- The Intern :)