How To Choose An Adoptive Family for My Baby?

All of our adoptive families have been carefully assessed and approved by a licensed social worker as an adoptive parent. Adoptive parents have been through a home assessment, criminal background checks, child abuse checks, and have also provided information about their medical, financial, and family backgrounds.

Each adoptive family has applied to adopt a child and has been through all of the necessary steps to become approved as an adoptive parent. You get to choose the family for your baby and meet them. You will know by talking with them and asking them questions if they are the right family for your child.

To learn more about this process, please download the Common Questions by Birth Parents on our website.

Options When Facing an Unplanned Pregnancy

Most people have misconceptions about how adoption works. When you are facing an unplanned pregnancy alone and have very little information or resources, you need a place to get your questions answered in a no-nonsense way. We are here to explain your options, the processes, procedures and support you every step of the way. Our life-time post placement services include grief and loss counseling, vocational or educational counseling. Contact us today! 1-800-685-6301 or read our frequently asked questions from birthmothers.

Placing a Child for Adoption

Facing an unplanned pregnancy alone can be one of the most frightening experiences a woman can face. Expectant mothers have a lot to consider when looking to parent your child to to place it for adoption. You must consider your options. What are the reasons for or against placing a child for adoption? Are there resources available to help you parent your child? These are just some of the important questions you need to explore before deciding that placement is the right decision for you and your family. Websites like the following can help you to understand the process of adoption better.

Is Placing Your Baby for Adoption Right for You?

Considering placing your baby for adoption is fraught with high emotions and decisions that seem to be too hard to actually come to grips with at times. One of the ways of determining whether or not this is a decision that you can or should make is to speak to an adoption counselor, friend or spiritual advisor whom you trust. I know what you are going through and how hard it is to determine whether or not you can parent this child or if it is best for it and your other children to place it for adoption. We help birth parents understand their options and if they decide to place the child, we work with you to determine the adoption plan that is right for you and your family.

See our Grief and Loss information and other information so you can make a realistic plan for yourself and your children.
Maxine L. Seiler, LCSW

Using Positive Adoption Language

It is very important to use positive adoption language with our families and friends. Using this type of language shows respect for all members of the triad. Most of us don’t know anything about adoption and feel self-conscious when we are confronted with some one who was adopted or a couple who is in the process of an adoption. I would like to give you a little guidance in choosing words to make the members of the adoption triad feel a little more comfortable. This isn’t ‘political correctness’! This is simply using common sense when in an awkward situation.

First of all, adoption is simply a legal way of creating your family. When a child is adopted, his ‘parents’ are his legal parents through adoption, so they are his ‘real parents’ as well as his ‘adoptive parents’. His ‘biological parents’ are his birth mother and birth father, not his ‘natural parents’ or ‘real parents’. In cases of voluntary termination of parental rights, the ‘biological parents’ have ‘terminated their parental rights’, not ‘given up their child for adoption’. These loving parents have ‘made an adoption plan’ for their unborn child, not ‘given away’ their child. In the type of open adoptions which are most common in the United States today, the child will usually ‘make contact with’ his birth parents, not set up a ‘reunion’. He will do this through a ‘search’, not by ‘tracking dow his real parents’.

These are just a few of the words and phrases that can help us all feel more comfortable when discussing adoption with those people who don’t understand the process in which many of us have created our families.

Adoption Statistics

According to Adoptive Families Magazine, 56% of new adoptive parents are matched with a birthmother within six months of their contract date.

We think our statistics compare very favorably with these figures. At Family to Family, our overall average time from contract to match is 4.7 months, and from contract to placement is 6.1 months. Half of our client families were matched within 2.5 months, and home with their baby within 4.3 months!

For more information, see Family to Family’s adoption statistics located on our website.

We have posted our placement statistics from the inception of our domestic program in January 2002 through December 31, 2007. Our time-lines for matching and placements are included too!

Children and Plastics

Caring for our children’s safety and health is a matter of concern to all our parents, adoptive or natural. Recently published information draws attention to hazards posed to our children by commonly used products.

A widely used additive to plastic products has been identified as having potential health risks to children, particularly infants, who want to put everything into their mouths. This additive, bisphenol-a, also known as BPA, is used to make plastic products harder. It can be found in baby bottles as well as in many children’s toys. Is is also used in the liners of food containers.

We have posted a short article to our web site about plastics in our baby products where you can find more information and references.