A Birth Mother’s Experience in Open Adoption

I wanted to share a letter we received about a year ago from a young woman who placed her son with us in June 2005.  She is now married and has a great job and all around great life.  This is not an unusual story and many birth families find resolution and happiness after placement if they have the right support and treatment from the agency they have chosen to help them through this process.

“I know I am so lucky to have so many people in my life that are so understanding.  At first, my mom and family were super upset that I didn’t tell them about the baby and the adoption until after the fact.  I couldn’t…they would have tried to interfere and I knew I was doing the right thing.  They’ve since become very supportive.  They know I did this out of love.  I don’t feel ashamed like I did before.  Instead, I’m proud of the sacrifice I made so that my baby could have a better life.

I’ve recommended your agency…but they chose to go through with an abortion.  Seeing them through what they did, made me all the more grateful that my situation unfolded the way it did.

Sometimes  I think about the baby and I’m a little sad…but I know that’s just life.  Things don’t always turn out the way you plan them to.  But I do believe in fate and that everything happens for a reason.  I love my life now…I have a great life…I couldn’t ask for anything else.  Thank you and your agency for all that you’ve done for me and my family…all of us.  I really love you guys!!!!”  H…placed June 2005

Many of our birth mothers have thanked us for how we have helped them in the adoption process and we have posted a few of their comments on our site as “Birth Mother Testimonials“.


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