I wanted to share a letter we received about a year ago from a young woman who placed her son with us in June 2005. She is now married and has a great job and all around great life. This is not an unusual story and many birth families find resolution and happiness after placement if they have the right support and treatment from the agency they have chosen to help them through this process.
“I know I am so lucky to have so many people in my life that are so understanding. At first, my mom and family were super upset that I didn’t tell them about the baby and the adoption until after the fact. I couldn’t…they would have tried to interfere and I knew I was doing the right thing. They’ve since become very supportive. They know I did this out of love. I don’t feel ashamed like I did before. Instead, I’m proud of the sacrifice I made so that my baby could have a better life.
I’ve recommended your agency…but they chose to go through with an abortion. Seeing them through what they did, made me all the more grateful that my situation unfolded the way it did.
Sometimes I think about the baby and I’m a little sad…but I know that’s just life. Things don’t always turn out the way you plan them to. But I do believe in fate and that everything happens for a reason. I love my life now…I have a great life…I couldn’t ask for anything else. Thank you and your agency for all that you’ve done for me and my family…all of us. I really love you guys!!!!” H…placed June 2005
Many of our birth mothers have thanked us for how we have helped them in the adoption process and we have posted a few of their comments on our site as “Birth Mother Testimonials“.
Thankfully, creating your family through adoption is now a fully accepted practice in our society. But, birth mothers who place their child for adoption may still have some reservations about their child’s full acceptance in the adoptive family. The best way to prevent a biological parent from having to worry about the decision and sacrifice she made for her child is to contact the biological family as you agreed.
Birth parents in the 21st Century expect to be able to see the child they placed for adoption grow up through a variety of ways. There is always the tried and true method of contacting each other through the agency or attorney if they offer that on-going service, but in the 21st Century, there are many, many other choices. Social media has revolutionized the ability of birth parents and adoptive parents to share news and pictures of the child they both love. Family websites can be password protected so that only people who should have access, have the access. Twitter and Facebook offer almost instantaneous communication.
It is very important for both the adoptive family and the birth family to be able to share photos and information about the child that they both love.
Family to Family Adoptions began placing domestic newborns in January 2002 and our statistics through December 2008 show that we have placed 232 babies and created 232 wonderful adoptive families.
- 43% of those children were Full Caucasian
- 16% were Hispanic/Caucasian
- 16% were Full Hispanic
- 1% were Caucasian/Asian
- 2% were Native American
- 11% were Caucasian/African American
- 2% were Hispanic/African American
- 8% were Full African American
- 12% of our families have adopted a second child through Family to Family
- 1% of our families have adopted a third child through Family to Family
