Testimonials from Adoptive Families

Testimonials from our Adoptive Families

  This is our latest testimonial we have received from an adoptive family:
Dear Family to Family,

It’s hard to know where to start because we are so thankful for you all in so many ways! We truly are speechless as we look at our four children-I absolutely believe God hand-chose them for our family but it wouldn’t have happened without ALL of you! THANK YOU for taking such good care of S and K and loving on them during such rough times. THANK YOU for answering all of our questions and making the process as easy as possible. Debbie, thank you for the relationships you keep up with the birth moms. Belinda, thank you for all the time you spent with us in the hospital. Jennifer, thank you for making us at ease during home study and post placement visits-you are wonderful. Most of all, THANK YOU to all of you for making us a beautiful, imperfect, loving family!! We LOVE our four sweet kiddos with all of our hearts and we are eternally grateful to you-literally. We believe there are eternal implications to us sharing God’s love with our children. Tears of JOY!!

With gratitude, M and A

We wanted to take a moment to express our thanks for the extra efforts you and your staff gave to place Rachel in our lives. It is people like you who have made our world a better place, simply by caring.

R & K

I started my 2nd adoption process knowing in my heart I was longing for a boy. Most importantly, I wanted to welcome into my family a child who would look like my H/AA adopted daughter and a birth family I felt I could relate to. I searched with several agencies across the country until one day I received a call from Family-To-Family telling me there was a little girl that was perfect for us. This was a good situation so I resolved myself to have a girl. Together with the birth mother we named her in our hearts… only to hear the doctor announce later at the delivery that it was a boy!  What a blessing! F2F made this adoption very smooth. Their process is well established so steps follow each other with little room for uncertainty. They are caring and ready to take the extra step to ensure a happy outcome. That includes picking you up at the drop of a hat when you cannot get to the courthouse in time for finalization and driving you back to the airport. Thank you for my beautiful and sweet little boy.

Helene

We had a wonderful experience with Family to Family.  Everyone made us feel so at ease through out our process.  They made it perfect.  We could not have asked for a better experience.  They helped make our dream come true.

Shelly and Michael

What first seemed like a long, intimidating process is now just a vague memory since bringing our baby girl home. She has truly been a joy. We feel so fortunate that we were introduced to Family to Family and to the wonderful couple who placed their child with us.

Sincerely,
Dan and Lisa

Gracie and Aidan were both adopted at birth into our family. They have brought us so much joy and happiness. Family to Family made our adoption experience very easy and memorable. We could not imagine life without our sweet angels.

The M. -J. Family

When I was trying to adopt, I answered an ad from Family to Family.  There were some health concerns with the birthmother that I was calling about.  Maxine did everything she could to protect us as an adoptive family while managing the concerns of the baby and birth mom.  She made sure that we did not have financial risk because of the health risk.  She handled the whole situation in as ethical and responsible a manner as she possibly could, and I can’t imagine her doing anything more for us than she did.  I am very proud to recommend such a caring agency.

Jennifer A.
Adoption Consultant

The Family to Family staff is a special part of everyone’s family. Gabriel Paul is our pride and joy! He is such a sweet little miracle. We are so thankful to Family to Family – they are a special part of our family.

Undisclosed

I am writing to THANK YOU for all the help you have given my daughter and son-in-law. I was very impressed with all of you gals. You were super!!! Being a first time grandmother, I was able to come to Texas with them to get their new little bundle of joy!!! Again, thank you for allowing them to be parents. They are thrilled, as I am!

Grandma Pam

We want to donate to your scholarship fund. Is it ok to use the Austin St. address? Little Cecilia has won our hearts forever. We will be thankful to her birth mom for her generousity for many years.

The J Family

Dr. Michelle L. M., PhD.

Two months before our wedding I was diagnosed with cancer. That was eight years ago. The diagnosis came as quite a shock to everyone, especially me, because I was a health conscious person and did not feel sick. At 33 years old and a newlywed, I entered an early menopause as a result of chemotherapy. Infertility kidnapped our dreams of having a family in the old-fashioned way and we were devastated.

In the meantime, our lives moved forward. We continued to advance in our respective careers, enjoyed an active social life, volunteered for charities and community projects and traveled to interesting places. Still, something was missing in our lives: a child. Though we remained sad for what would never be, we accepted the truth of our reality and considered adoption to be the logical choice for us. I was familiar with adoption, at least at a basic level. When my mother was fifteen years old she became pregnant. In 1964, adoption was a secretive event. It was not socially acceptable for a young girl to be pregnant or keep the baby. Thus, my older sister was adopted at birth. Her adoption was closed, as was the custom in those days. The birth parents and adoptive parents did not meet, knew little if any information about one another and the court records were sealed. As the years went by, my mother would have 4 more children. Few people knew her secret and she suffered under the weight of it. She feared that we, her children, and other family members, would find out and think badly of her. She also feared never knowing if her baby was safe and happy in the world. It was 38 years later when my sister was reunited to her biologic family. As a result of my medical need to find her, the court was petitioned to have my sister’s adoption records unsealed, but because of the closed nature of her adoption, the legal process to open them was difficult. Two judges refused. A third judge agreed. With a wave of a pen lives were changed forever, again.

A wound in our family tree became healed. Because her adoptive mother was Asian and my sister was not, she always knew that she was adopted. The freedom to know about her biologic family’s social and genetic history was not previously possible for my sister because her adoption was closed. To know her birthright has not only filled in the missing pieces of my sister’s identity, but mine too, and all of us, as well as provided important health information to my sister. To this day, though my sister enjoys a terrific relationship with her biologic family, she considers her adoptive parents to be her real parents. Unlike my sister, my brother and I were raised by our biologic mother and never knew our biologic father, or his side of the family. By the time we were in elementary school he died and we were adopted by our step-father. To this day, we consider the adoptive side of our family to be our real family. We share a history with our adoptive family that is meaningful and unaffected by a lack of shared genetics. Until a few years ago when my husband and I became interested in adopting a child, these were my only experiences and understanding of adoption.

So, now that my husband and I decided to make our parenting dreams come true through the miracle of open adoption, we had much to learn about the process. We spoke to numerous adoptive parents, social workers, lawyers, and adults who had been adopted as children. We went to adoption conferences, adoption reunion picnics, watched movies and television shows about adoption. When we felt knowledgeable enough we began the process of pre-interviewing adoption agencies by phone. We were ready to adopt a child, but received closed doors from adoption agencies. Why? I continued to have cancer. My illness was chronic but manageable through periodic maintenance chemotherapy. In the medical opinion of my doctor my quality of life was exceptional and there was a reasonable expectation that I could raise a child to adulthood, even with cancer. In the 8 years since my cancer diagnosis I continued to hold my post as Executive Director of a non-profit organization, earned a masters and doctorate degrees, wrote and published 4 books, and produced and hosted award-winning radio and television shows. I believed that in addition to a letter from my doctor, my accomplishments under such adversity would clearly establish to an adoption agency that I was a motivated person, capable, and energetic. But, more than 100 times, I was rejected, sometimes politely, sometimes not.

Because of me, my husband and I could not adopt. He didn’t see it that way, but I still felt responsible and broken-hearted. It didn’t matter that we had a strong and loving marriage, or that our home was spacious and well-maintained, located in a family-oriented community in an excellent school district, or that we made a six-figure salary. According to most adoption agencies we were not perfect enough. It wasn’t fair. After so much rejection, we were on the verge of giving up on our adoption plans. Already in our 40’s, we were also playing beat the clock in that domain, since according to the adoption agencies we talked to we would be considered too old in a few years. One day, while at my local supermarket, I saw a flyer posted on a bulletin board about an adoption agency called Family to Family Adoptions Incorporated. Figuring that I’d be rejected yet again, I hesitated to take the information, but did so anyway. We phoned them that day, arranged an appointment to interview face-to-face and with that we stepped away from adoption darkness into the light of possibility. Unlike the other agencies that we spoke to, Family to Family had a broader view of the perfect parent. After completing our home study and submitting our paperwork we were matched within weeks to a young birth couple experiencing economic hardship and having their third child, a boy, in less than a month. Because of open adoption we would have the opportunity to know the birth parents and learn about their family medical history. Through hours of telephone conversation and in-person interactions, we bonded to the birth parents and their two children. Without warning, a few weeks later and 3 days after Christmas, everything unraveled and we were devastated.

The rejection was the result of a conflict of interest about post placement expectations. Family to Family did everything possible to save the match but the birth couple had their minds made up. We felt betrayed by the birth couple. We had already seen the sonogram pictures and had fallen in love with a baby that wasn’t even born and believed would be our son. Our diaper bag was packed and our suitcases were on standby. The champagne bottles were chilled in anticipation of the baby’s arrival. We had already named our son and our family and friends were anxiously awaiting his arrival too. Our nursery had been set up 4 years earlier and now it looked as though it would continue to be merely a metaphor of hope. We were deeply depressed, angry and wanted to stop hurting. I went into the nursery, gathered all of the miscellaneous items, put them in the closet, and closed the nursery door, unable to look inside that room any longer. We were done. No more adoption. We could not risk having another emotional trauma. Choking back tears of frustration and defeat, I called Family to Family to say that we would have to withdraw our interest. Our social worker at the agency, Jennifer, encouraged us to ‘get back on the horse.’ I’m glad we listened to her and not our emotions. Five days later, on New Year’s Day, completely out of the blue, we received a call from Family to Family Adoptions. A healthy baby girl, born that morning, was in need of adoptive parents. The birth parents, 17 and 19 years old, already with a 1-year boy, had selected our portfolio and wanted to meet us. My husband and I threw clothes in a bag, arranged for a dog sitter, hopped in the car, and headed south. Milan Elizabeth Miller was born on January 1st 2008 at 8:22am, 7 lbs 15 ounces, 20 ½ inches long. Birth parents’ rights were relinquished 48 hours later, as required by law, and we brought our daughter home. We are thrilled beyond words and knew that she was our daughter from the minute we saw her. Because of Family to Family our dream has come true!